Anatomia de "guy" factor - Chapter 4

Ask an average guy "What is love ?" and you would be amazed by responses !

The most prominent guy response >> Big Laughter, raised eyebrows !! and say "have you gone nuts ". And like a backfire , you are slaughtered with jokes and prying question back.
So the first thing a person thinks, before asking this probably unanswered question , What the hell am i doing by asking this ?

Ergo - you would be right if u think i had to take a deep breath before gathering my guts here to write anything regarding this here :-) . Knowing my friends and colleagues, I am in for some cynical smile.

Ok, lets again ask, a little bit more seriously this time ! "What is your opinion of LOVE ?"

The more serious guys would try to shoot it down by either quoting "Well this is very abstract. Lets not dwell into it" and start discussing cricket and code, maybe for umpteenth time.

Woody Allen once quoted to this ethereal question :-
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."

This speaks itself, i believe my state. As an average guy myself, i dont know, but like a wiseass i would still like to put some casual words thrown together to make a worthy semblance of a statement. Guess what ? U still remain clueless even after hours of discussing. I believe a quote will also be thrown in - "It is tacit and can only be experienced" which conclude one's take but still go on rambling with many more mystic sentences with words "Magical, wonderful, exuberant, lost".

Then ask the heartbroken guy and the response would be a lifestory that at all does not discuss about love but with a forgone conclusion "how can that girl do this to me after all this ? I tell you my friend, dont fall in love and be happy !!!". Beware , a sentence to this effect might get repeated over and over for the better part of whole story itself.

One of the strangest response i encountered was a friend from my university > "You are in love dude if you are not able to have **** thoughts about your girlfriend". The effect that it had over me was - i was with my Mouth and Brain open with big "O" trying to ponder it even. Fortunately he put some sanity back by saying "What i mean , you cant think bad in anyway of the person u love" .
Well it did not answer my question as this is expected isnt it ? Nobody thinks bad of anybody except the mentally deranged perhaps other than out of vengeance or jealousy. That hardly explained love to me.

Then there were some responses from the guys who has a self preservation of a hero about their love life . They dont answer your question at all rather they start giving advices how one should proceed with their lady love. One such incident at a resturant with a friend - Response >"Girls are very complex dude ! You have to think at every step , in every action. Do not let the romance die. touch therapy is very important in your love life............" and on and on and on it goes. I am silently sipping my cofffee, wondering with a sigh, about the beautiful girl who is playing with her boyfriend at the opposite end of the resturant, now and then making a nonchalant nod to my friend's unstoppable ramblings.

So this other time i tried once again and got this reposnse from another charming friend of mine. "You would realise that you are in love if u feel the pain of a loss it would be when that person is not there. Just imagine it even and you would know whether you are in love ?Also think by imagining it how you feel what is gonna happen if it turns real". Generally i find lot of responses something to this effect. But today i realised i was in so much brotherly or friendly love (here i even dare to categorise love but just to make my cynical friends to see the point) with this close friend who died of ill-fated accident.

I think i am deviating from the topic. Coming back what i feel is that i dont want to be the one making a point or putting any opinions regarding this question. "No comments". On second thoughts one more thing i opine that Guys are not the ones whom one should ask ? Better learn it yourself and be thankful to god if you able to answer yourself.