You have seen it everywhere from your early schooldays right to your office workplace. A small huddle of shoulders , a clusture of heads hanging around in a imaginary circle as if creating their own private domain on a public ground separated from other mass of people or maybe another cluster. Yes i am talking about "Groups" - an euphemism of a three or more person forming an elite private band having its own set of rules and rituals. I am categorically stating that a group can be formed only if it has three or more human elements. Two person are reserved for expression "Couples" or just "Good Pals". I strongly think that there is an inherent human social nature and a need to associate oneself to a particular group.
How a group is formed ? My perception is that a group can only be formed between a set of people if they find a common turf - set(s) of common agenda. This acts as a bonding factor which glues the group. The bonding can be as abstract like "Eating habits" to more concrete "Skin colour, region specific". In IT software world it could be as varying from a "Specific Project team" to simply "Manager bashing". Any person in a group not sharing this bonding factor will eventually be thrown off and cut off either implicitly or explicitly. Occasional strayers are allowed within the group but then that would be for a couple of moments as a flash of thunderstorm until it passes away.
How long does it take for a group to form ? I would say it all depends on the vibes within a set of people. It could be like within minutes. For instance in a tourist sightseeing tour , all the chinese, taiwanese people would combine and form a group within moments just by seeing each other face. I dont know how do they distinguish between each other so fast because for me all are "Chinkis". Anyway that is beside the point.
Coming back to the topic let me pen down a few of my observation about a group. There are always small subgroup(s) within a group. Generally a common group does not have a leader or spokesperson but some individuals contribute so much that a group almost personifies that individual's nature. There is always a matter of contention that one's group is superior to another group. Individuals within a group may have lot of issues with each others but somehow they still mantain the unity and bonding most of the time. The reason maybe that few cross-linked chain are formed within a group that bonds each and everyone to each other. I found out that once a group has been formed and lived out its infancy, it is very difficult for a new member to be accepted as an elite member within a group. Often a group would be overheard of making snide remarks OR fun about somebody OR something which again forms a bonding factor.
Finally a group dissolves over a period of time whence individualistic pursuit to success takes
precedence to groupism. Each one taking its own cherished memories and prized possessions like photographs, videos etc of the GANG (some even name their group) to further land making new friends and new groups or simply becoming a couple. Some group stay on in the virtual world but that personal touch is lost.
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hey well written dude...u will now be on the privileged list.
shashwatk wrote: I found out that once a group has been formed and lived out its infancy, it is very difficult for a new member to be accepted as an elite member within a group.
Doesn't this depend on how sacred the cause of the group (that has been formed) is? Inability to accept a new member is plain narrow-mindedness. A group is a tribute to the Cause and not to the members (unless, it involves the fairer sex :-P).
shashwatk wrote: I am categorically stating that a group can be formed only if it has three or more human elements.
many groups start with two. Again,A married man saying this ? LOL :-P
btw, has your perception of groups changed after your marriage?
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